The most important thing I have learned about being a mom is to be present. What does that mean you say? Of course you are present, right? Well, that isn't so true or easy to do.
A woman's mind or anyones for that matter is always thinking and thinking and thinking. Really think about it! OR should I say try to stop thinking. Go ahead and try it right now. Stop your mind from thinking. It is virtually impossible.
The mind, have you ever noticed just never shuts up. The endless chatter just going in circles. And yes, I hate to say it but women are the worse. We are thinking about everything from what to make for dinner, to finding the receipt for the sweater you need to return, to thinking you are the worse mom cause your baby fell asleep before she got enough bites of green beans in her mouth etc. etc. etc. The worse part is it is non-stop, repetitive, and never ending.
I have learned something very important about being a mom and parenting, but by no means am I a master of it. It is to be conscious of what you are thinking. Really! Always be the "watcher" of your thoughts. Then slow them down. Nothing is more important than right now, this very moment especially in your child's eyes. You don't have the past. You don't have the future. All you will EVER have is right NOW.
Trust me, you won't be able to do it in one try. The mind is a powerful thing. You will lose yourself in thought over and over but continually come back to being that watcher. You will get better and more conscious. Your quality of life will change.
So right now, Stop thinking. Look into your child's eyes. Appreciate this moment and just play or talk or get silly. But by all means Shut your mind up and be present. It is THE BEST present you can ever give your child or yourself. Believe me your child will notice a difference and will be much more happy to truly have MOM all to herself!
2008年8月28日星期四
How to Access Early Childhood Intervention Services for a Child in Texas
The Texas Department of Assistive and Rehabilitative Services governs the Early Childhood Intervention (ECI) program for the state of Texas. If you have a child under the age of three who may have developmental delays, follow these steps to access early childhood education services for your child.
Step1
Consult with your child's pediatrician regarding what is normal development and then observe your child for potential developmental delays. Documenting your observations and conversations with medical professionals helps with the referral.
Step2
Refer your child to ECI by calling the Department of Assistive and Rehabilitative Services Inquiries Line at (800) 628-5115. You'll be given the name and number for your local ECI program.
Step3
Contact your local ECI program and then wait for an ECI staff member to call you for more information. During the call, the staff member works with you to set up a time for an intake interview.
Step4
Participate in the intake interview with the ECI staff member. The staff member will ask more questions about your child, determine if an interdisciplinary evaluation is needed and provide you with information about ECI.
Step5
Attend your child's evaluation if deemed necessary. Most evaluations take place in your child's natural environment. Typically this is the home or a day care center. Evaluators may include the following professionals: physical therapist, speech and language pathologist, occupational therapist or child development specialist.
Step6
Wait to see if your child qualifies for services. Some evaluators will tell you immediately after the evaluation. If you child qualifies, then you will meet with early childhood intervention professionals to write your Individual Family Service Plan (IFSP).
Step7
Maintain scheduled appointments for your child's therapy. If you are going to miss an appointment, contact someone immediately to reschedule.
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Step1
Consult with your child's pediatrician regarding what is normal development and then observe your child for potential developmental delays. Documenting your observations and conversations with medical professionals helps with the referral.
Step2
Refer your child to ECI by calling the Department of Assistive and Rehabilitative Services Inquiries Line at (800) 628-5115. You'll be given the name and number for your local ECI program.
Step3
Contact your local ECI program and then wait for an ECI staff member to call you for more information. During the call, the staff member works with you to set up a time for an intake interview.
Step4
Participate in the intake interview with the ECI staff member. The staff member will ask more questions about your child, determine if an interdisciplinary evaluation is needed and provide you with information about ECI.
Step5
Attend your child's evaluation if deemed necessary. Most evaluations take place in your child's natural environment. Typically this is the home or a day care center. Evaluators may include the following professionals: physical therapist, speech and language pathologist, occupational therapist or child development specialist.
Step6
Wait to see if your child qualifies for services. Some evaluators will tell you immediately after the evaluation. If you child qualifies, then you will meet with early childhood intervention professionals to write your Individual Family Service Plan (IFSP).
Step7
Maintain scheduled appointments for your child's therapy. If you are going to miss an appointment, contact someone immediately to reschedule.
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2008年8月22日星期五
How to Access Early Childhood Intervention Services for a Child in New York
Children develop at different rates; however, there are some children who exhibit significant developmental delays. Fortunately, all states, including New York State, provide services to children with developmental delays. New York State has an Early Intervention Program, outlined under Article 23 of the Public Health Law. By following the next few steps, you can access an early childhood education program for your child if he needs assistance and qualifies.
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Step1
Decide if your child might be eligible for early childhood education. To be eligible your child must be under three years of age and must have a developmental delay.
Step2
Refer your child to early childhood intervention. A parent or a health care professional can refer a child. Referrals are made by calling (800) 522-5066.
Step3
Wait to be contacted by an initial service coordinator. During this initial contact, the coordinator will set up a time to meet with you.
Step4
Meet with your coordinator. During this meeting your coordinator reviews your family rights and collaborates with you to identify, select, and contact professionals qualified to participate in your child's multidisciplinary team evaluation. Additionally, you receive a copy of "A Parent's Guide to the Early Intervention Program."
Step5
Work with your coordinator to set up a time for the multidisciplinary evaluation, and then attend the evaluation with your child. During the multidisciplinary evaluation, more than one professional evaluates your child. At least one professional looks at your child's overall development, while another professional looks at your child's specific delay.
Step6
Listen as the team reviews the results of the evaluation with you.
Step7
Read and review the evaluation report and summary which should include the following: statement of your child's eligibility, names of staff who conducted the evaluation, description of the evaluation and measures used, your child's responses, your opinion regarding your child's performance during the evaluation, and scores from the tests given.
Step8
Collaborate with professionals to develop your Individual Family Service Plan (IFSP). Keep in mind that the IFSP must be developed no later than 45 days after your child's referral.
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Step1
Decide if your child might be eligible for early childhood education. To be eligible your child must be under three years of age and must have a developmental delay.
Step2
Refer your child to early childhood intervention. A parent or a health care professional can refer a child. Referrals are made by calling (800) 522-5066.
Step3
Wait to be contacted by an initial service coordinator. During this initial contact, the coordinator will set up a time to meet with you.
Step4
Meet with your coordinator. During this meeting your coordinator reviews your family rights and collaborates with you to identify, select, and contact professionals qualified to participate in your child's multidisciplinary team evaluation. Additionally, you receive a copy of "A Parent's Guide to the Early Intervention Program."
Step5
Work with your coordinator to set up a time for the multidisciplinary evaluation, and then attend the evaluation with your child. During the multidisciplinary evaluation, more than one professional evaluates your child. At least one professional looks at your child's overall development, while another professional looks at your child's specific delay.
Step6
Listen as the team reviews the results of the evaluation with you.
Step7
Read and review the evaluation report and summary which should include the following: statement of your child's eligibility, names of staff who conducted the evaluation, description of the evaluation and measures used, your child's responses, your opinion regarding your child's performance during the evaluation, and scores from the tests given.
Step8
Collaborate with professionals to develop your Individual Family Service Plan (IFSP). Keep in mind that the IFSP must be developed no later than 45 days after your child's referral.
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2008年8月17日星期日
How to Arrange a Playdate
As any city or suburban parent knows all too well, the days are long gone when a child could run out onto an empty street on a sunny day and join an impromptu stickball game organized by the neighborhood kids. Today, pretty much any kid under 10 who wants to have an after-school social life needs to be set up on a playdate, a task that usually falls to the parent or babysitter. Here s how to go about it.
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Step1
Ask your kid who she likes to play with. Many parents blithely arrange playdates with any child who happens to be available, regardless of whether the kids involved are actually compatible. If you ask, you ll know that your daughter really likes playing with Janie, and really doesn t like playing with Amanda. Circumstances being what they are, she may wind up with Amanda anyway, but at least you ll know her preferences.
Step2
Be friendly, but businesslike. Fortunately, calling another adult to ask for a playdate isn t quite as fraught with fear and uncertainty as calling another adult to ask for a real date. Be sure to identify yourself ( Hi, this is Gretchen, Billy s mom ) and ask if little Jack would like to come over for a visit, or if it s okay for Billy to come over and visit Jack. Some negotiation may be involved ( Jack has his violin lesson today. Can I drop him off at your house tomorrow afternoon? ), but that s to be expected.
Step3
Act responsibly. When you host a playdate, you re acting in loco parentis (with the emphasis on the loco ) for your friend s child. If your kid and her friend are younger than 6, don t leave them alone in the bedroom for hours at a time while you watch TV in the den and even if they re older than 6, be sure to check in on them occasionally. Make sure their activities are wrapped up by the time you promised to take Janie home (or her dad has arranged to drop by to pick her up).
Step4
Foot the bill. There s one way in which a playdate is like a real date: If you take the initiative and invite another child over to your house, you ve implicitly agreed to give that kid a hearty snack and (possibly) allow him to stay over for dinner. By the same token, if your playdate involves going to a movie or show, pick up the tab for both kids the other mom will do the same when it s her turn.
Step5
Reciprocate. Most busy parents, if given the choice, would rather pack their child off to a friend s house than host a three-hour playdate. For this reason, it s unfair to your neighbors to continually arrange away dates, which will come to seem more like an unpaid form of child care than a way to build your childrens' social lives. Even if you sense your friend likes having little ones in her home, be sure to offer to take on the hosting duties every now and then, just for etiquette's sake.
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Step1
Ask your kid who she likes to play with. Many parents blithely arrange playdates with any child who happens to be available, regardless of whether the kids involved are actually compatible. If you ask, you ll know that your daughter really likes playing with Janie, and really doesn t like playing with Amanda. Circumstances being what they are, she may wind up with Amanda anyway, but at least you ll know her preferences.
Step2
Be friendly, but businesslike. Fortunately, calling another adult to ask for a playdate isn t quite as fraught with fear and uncertainty as calling another adult to ask for a real date. Be sure to identify yourself ( Hi, this is Gretchen, Billy s mom ) and ask if little Jack would like to come over for a visit, or if it s okay for Billy to come over and visit Jack. Some negotiation may be involved ( Jack has his violin lesson today. Can I drop him off at your house tomorrow afternoon? ), but that s to be expected.
Step3
Act responsibly. When you host a playdate, you re acting in loco parentis (with the emphasis on the loco ) for your friend s child. If your kid and her friend are younger than 6, don t leave them alone in the bedroom for hours at a time while you watch TV in the den and even if they re older than 6, be sure to check in on them occasionally. Make sure their activities are wrapped up by the time you promised to take Janie home (or her dad has arranged to drop by to pick her up).
Step4
Foot the bill. There s one way in which a playdate is like a real date: If you take the initiative and invite another child over to your house, you ve implicitly agreed to give that kid a hearty snack and (possibly) allow him to stay over for dinner. By the same token, if your playdate involves going to a movie or show, pick up the tab for both kids the other mom will do the same when it s her turn.
Step5
Reciprocate. Most busy parents, if given the choice, would rather pack their child off to a friend s house than host a three-hour playdate. For this reason, it s unfair to your neighbors to continually arrange away dates, which will come to seem more like an unpaid form of child care than a way to build your childrens' social lives. Even if you sense your friend likes having little ones in her home, be sure to offer to take on the hosting duties every now and then, just for etiquette's sake.
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2008年8月13日星期三
How to Apply for a Social Security Number for a Baby
Applying for a Social Security card for your baby is simple and important to do. You can usually apply for the card before the newborn baby even leaves the hospital.
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Step1
Complete the application form provided by your hospital. You don't need to do anything else if the form is provided. Follow any instructions included about mailing it.
Step2
Contact the Social Security Administration at (800) 772-1213 or visit your local Social Security office to obtain a form if your child was born at home or in a nonparticipating hospital.
Step3
Take the original birth certificate (or a certified copy) to the local Social Security office. If you're applying by mail, you'll need to mail the original or certified copy with the form. It will be returned to you.
Step4
Expect to receive your child's Social Security card in the mail within two months.
Step5
Keep the card in a safe place, such as a safety deposit box or home safe.
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Step1
Complete the application form provided by your hospital. You don't need to do anything else if the form is provided. Follow any instructions included about mailing it.
Step2
Contact the Social Security Administration at (800) 772-1213 or visit your local Social Security office to obtain a form if your child was born at home or in a nonparticipating hospital.
Step3
Take the original birth certificate (or a certified copy) to the local Social Security office. If you're applying by mail, you'll need to mail the original or certified copy with the form. It will be returned to you.
Step4
Expect to receive your child's Social Security card in the mail within two months.
Step5
Keep the card in a safe place, such as a safety deposit box or home safe.
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2008年8月12日星期二
How to Adopt a Child of Another Race
Non-white children are less in demand for adoptions and are more available. Consider all of the issues you and your potential child may face because of race.
Step1
Understand that Caucasian infants are in the greatest demand for adoption.
Step2
Know that children of other races and nationalities are much more available to be adopted.
Step3
Locate an adoption agency that does interracial adoptions.
Step4
Recognize that some birth mothers will not allow their children to be adopted by families of another race or culture. Some agencies and experts in the field believe that it is important for a child to be raised by parents who are the same race as the child.
Step5
Contact the National Adoption Clearinghouse if you have difficulty locating an agency that will do interracial adoptions. Ask for the names of some agencies in your area that can help you.
Step6
Explain to the agency that you would like to adopt a child of another race or nationality.
Step7
Know that you will probably be asked to undergo some counseling to be sure that you will be able to cope with the challenges of an interracial adoption.
Step8
Realize that after the adoption you may often be asked, "Whose child is he?" and may be stared at. Many people react strangely to the idea of interracial adoptions.
Step9
Be prepared to discuss the issue of race or nationality with your child when he or she is older. It is an issue you must confront. Your child's cultural heritage will always be with him or her and is something that should be celebrated, not ignored or covered up.
Step10
Adopt an interracial child if you are certain that the race difference will not make you uncomfortable or embarrassed. Once you adopt a child, you can't give him or her back!
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Step1
Understand that Caucasian infants are in the greatest demand for adoption.
Step2
Know that children of other races and nationalities are much more available to be adopted.
Step3
Locate an adoption agency that does interracial adoptions.
Step4
Recognize that some birth mothers will not allow their children to be adopted by families of another race or culture. Some agencies and experts in the field believe that it is important for a child to be raised by parents who are the same race as the child.
Step5
Contact the National Adoption Clearinghouse if you have difficulty locating an agency that will do interracial adoptions. Ask for the names of some agencies in your area that can help you.
Step6
Explain to the agency that you would like to adopt a child of another race or nationality.
Step7
Know that you will probably be asked to undergo some counseling to be sure that you will be able to cope with the challenges of an interracial adoption.
Step8
Realize that after the adoption you may often be asked, "Whose child is he?" and may be stared at. Many people react strangely to the idea of interracial adoptions.
Step9
Be prepared to discuss the issue of race or nationality with your child when he or she is older. It is an issue you must confront. Your child's cultural heritage will always be with him or her and is something that should be celebrated, not ignored or covered up.
Step10
Adopt an interracial child if you are certain that the race difference will not make you uncomfortable or embarrassed. Once you adopt a child, you can't give him or her back!
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2008年8月9日星期六
How to Adopt a Child Overseas
The adoption of a child from another country by a U.S. citizen involves the U.S. Immigration and Naturalization Service (INS), the U.S. State Department, the foreign country where the child resides and any additional requirements of the state the child will live in.
Step1
Select a country you'd like to adopt a child from. Generally, countries with a stable government have the best provisions for successful adoptions.
Step2
Choose an agency with experience in intercountry adoption, especially in the country you hope to adopt from. Ask for references. Verify that the agency is licensed by calling the licensing specialist in your state.
Step3
Check with the state's office of the attorney general to see if any complaints have been filed against the agency.
Step4
Find out the agency's minimum requirements for adoptive parents and ask about the adoptive country's requirements, if any. Also ask about costs, including travel expenses, legal costs, medical expenses and agency fees.
Step5
Expect the agency to assign a social worker to you. He or she will conduct interviews, set up a home study and - if you are approved - help with required paperwork.
Step6
Arrange for a physical exam as soon as your child has arrived. Apply for U.S. citizenship for the child.
Step7
Understand that the average cost for intercountry adoption is between $15,000 and $20,000 - but it can go higher, depending on the child's country of origin.
Step8
Be prepared to wait for as long as three years.
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Step1
Select a country you'd like to adopt a child from. Generally, countries with a stable government have the best provisions for successful adoptions.
Step2
Choose an agency with experience in intercountry adoption, especially in the country you hope to adopt from. Ask for references. Verify that the agency is licensed by calling the licensing specialist in your state.
Step3
Check with the state's office of the attorney general to see if any complaints have been filed against the agency.
Step4
Find out the agency's minimum requirements for adoptive parents and ask about the adoptive country's requirements, if any. Also ask about costs, including travel expenses, legal costs, medical expenses and agency fees.
Step5
Expect the agency to assign a social worker to you. He or she will conduct interviews, set up a home study and - if you are approved - help with required paperwork.
Step6
Arrange for a physical exam as soon as your child has arrived. Apply for U.S. citizenship for the child.
Step7
Understand that the average cost for intercountry adoption is between $15,000 and $20,000 - but it can go higher, depending on the child's country of origin.
Step8
Be prepared to wait for as long as three years.
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